#+title: S05 - L35 | deal with rejection
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* Links
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- [[../../toc.org][TOC - Radiate Confidence]]
- [[https://www.udemy.com/course/1000-watt-presence/learn/lecture/707016#overview][video]]

* Notes
- rejection muscle gets developed
  - bounces off

- do not take things so personally
  - the pain of rejection is a very vulnerable place
  - our feelings are not facts

- our minds want to attach the rejection to something we did
  - we spend tons of energy trying to figure it out

- on top of that it may not be true
  - feelings are not facts

- train the mind
  - find the clarity not to react
  - allow the experience to go
  - don't over-interpret
  - it's a waste of energy

- rejection is part of the game
- how you deal with rejection says a lot about you
    - your ability
    - your character

** how to deal with
- start to look in your life if you take things personally
  - do you get insulted
  - are you quick to react
  - do you interpret how this makes you feel

- if you get upset then you are making it all about you
- if you don't take it personally then you are chill

** you just don't know
- why the client didn't go for it
- get the referal
- your feelings are not facts
- give yourself the space to get back on that bike and in camp positive
- keep yourself in a positive headspace
- see the opportunities
  - positive
  - you have people to help

** overview
1. rejection is part of the journey
2. recognize how you take things personally or dont
3. make a space to deal with your feelings
   - its more than just saying don't feel that way
   - create a space to figure it out

** coping tricks
*** the flick
- put the frustration into a gesutr
- flick yourself as a "punishment"
- then drop it

*** the dump
- write or code it
- put everything out there
- then shred the motherfucker

*** shower
- if you are really distraught
- water has a way of washing the feelings off