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#+title: S05 - L35 | deal with rejection
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* Links
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#+attr_html: :class links
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- [[../../toc.org][TOC - Radiate Confidence]]
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- [[https://www.udemy.com/course/1000-watt-presence/learn/lecture/707016#overview][video]]
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* Notes
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- rejection muscle gets developed
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- bounces off
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- do not take things so personally
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- the pain of rejection is a very vulnerable place
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- our feelings are not facts
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- our minds want to attach the rejection to something we did
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- we spend tons of energy trying to figure it out
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- on top of that it may not be true
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- feelings are not facts
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- train the mind
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- find the clarity not to react
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- allow the experience to go
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- don't over-interpret
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- it's a waste of energy
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- rejection is part of the game
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- how you deal with rejection says a lot about you
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- your ability
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- your character
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** how to deal with
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- start to look in your life if you take things personally
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- do you get insulted
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- are you quick to react
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- do you interpret how this makes you feel
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- if you get upset then you are making it all about you
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- if you don't take it personally then you are chill
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** you just don't know
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- why the client didn't go for it
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- get the referal
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- your feelings are not facts
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- give yourself the space to get back on that bike and in camp positive
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- keep yourself in a positive headspace
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- see the opportunities
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- positive
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- you have people to help
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** overview
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1. rejection is part of the journey
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2. recognize how you take things personally or dont
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3. make a space to deal with your feelings
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- its more than just saying don't feel that way
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- create a space to figure it out
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** coping tricks
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*** the flick
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- put the frustration into a gesutr
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- flick yourself as a "punishment"
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- then drop it
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*** the dump
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- write or code it
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- put everything out there
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- then shred the motherfucker
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*** shower
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- if you are really distraught
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- water has a way of washing the feelings off
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