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S05 - L35 | deal with rejection

Notes

  • rejection muscle gets developed

    • bounces off
  • do not take things so personally

    • the pain of rejection is a very vulnerable place
    • our feelings are not facts
  • our minds want to attach the rejection to something we did

    • we spend tons of energy trying to figure it out
  • on top of that it may not be true

    • feelings are not facts
  • train the mind

    • find the clarity not to react
    • allow the experience to go
    • don't over-interpret
    • it's a waste of energy
  • rejection is part of the game
  • how you deal with rejection says a lot about you

    • your ability
    • your character

how to deal with

  • start to look in your life if you take things personally

    • do you get insulted
    • are you quick to react
    • do you interpret how this makes you feel
  • if you get upset then you are making it all about you
  • if you don't take it personally then you are chill

you just don't know

  • why the client didn't go for it
  • get the referal
  • your feelings are not facts
  • give yourself the space to get back on that bike and in camp positive
  • keep yourself in a positive headspace
  • see the opportunities

    • positive
    • you have people to help

overview

  1. rejection is part of the journey
  2. recognize how you take things personally or dont
  3. make a space to deal with your feelings

    • its more than just saying don't feel that way
    • create a space to figure it out

coping tricks

the flick

  • put the frustration into a gesutr
  • flick yourself as a "punishment"
  • then drop it

the dump

  • write or code it
  • put everything out there
  • then shred the motherfucker

shower

  • if you are really distraught
  • water has a way of washing the feelings off